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A Mindful Perspective
How to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
What's your comfort zone costing you?
In this week's episode, we're diving into the magic that happens when you step out of your comfort zone and why it’s so important to push those boundaries. I'll share some of my own stories, and you'll see how trying new things and facing our fears not only helps us achieve our goals but, more importantly, builds our confidence, courage, and self-esteem.
We'll discuss the importance of finding that sweet spot between pushing yourself and managing stress. I'll give you practical tips on facing your fears and building resilience, whether it's joining a new gym class or thinking about a career change. We'll also talk about why change feels so scary and how small steps can help you break free, making your life more exciting and fulfilling.
And don't worry, we'll touch on mental health too. It's super important to know when your comfort zone is holding you back and when it's time to seek support. Join the conversation, share your thoughts, and let's tackle these challenges together.
Hello everyone and welcome to A Mindful Perspective. I'm your host, nick Levesque, certified Spiritual Life Coach, and I'm here to share insights into my journey of mindfulness and self-discovery. Each week, we'll explore mindset, spirituality and personal growth to help you navigate life's challenges, with practical strategies and inspiring stories. Let's dive in. Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of A Mindful Perspective. In today's episode, we're going to be diving into how to get out of your comfort zone and why it's so important. Okay, because I think it is something that's so, so, so important and something that a lot of us need to do more right, and we're going to be also sharing tips and tricks on specifically how to do that. So let's dive right in. So, first and foremost, I think we've all heard it before, right, like, we all intuitively know that getting out of our comfort zone is important, and we've heard it all before. Right, like, oh, get out of your comfort zone, you won't grow in your comfort zone, and all these different things. Right, and honestly, I do agree with this. I agree that if we're always in our comfort zone, that can be very limiting to us. Okay, and, of course, our comfort zone isn't always bad, but it's when that comfort zone is holding us back from achieving our dreams or whatever it is that we want to do. That's when it can become problematic. Now, the beautiful thing about the comfort zone is that we don't necessarily always need to make this huge, extravagant move to get out of our comfort zone. Ok, we don't necessarily need to move to a new country or all these different things. Obviously, that's a big move, and if that's what's on your heart and you can do that, that's a big move. And if that's what's on your heart and you can do that, that's beautiful, right? However, it can also be the accumulation of small little things that we do in our daily lives, okay, and sometimes there are little things that we don't do that could get us out of our comfort zone, okay. So let me give you a few examples of this. So one that comes to mind is in the gym. Okay, and this happened to me, you know, when I first started training as well. But some people will not try new gym classes or gym equipment because they're afraid, right, they're afraid of being judged by others, they're afraid that they're not going to do well, they're afraid that, like, they have no idea how to use this piece of equipment, so they just won't touch it at all. Okay, and these are little things that we can start doing to get out of our comfort zone, right? This is exactly what I mean.
Speaker 1:Getting out of our comfort zone does not necessarily need to be this huge shift. It's these little things that can help us face our fears, build our confidence and our self-esteem, right? So, as an example, someone might be afraid of going into that Zumba class because they're afraid of what other people will think, but in doing so, they might be missing out on opportunities to meet new people, to connect with new people, build new relationships, as an example. And also, they might be missing out on a hobby that they've never tried, that they might actually fall in love with, and then that becomes one of their main hobbies and one of their main health and fitness routines, as an example, right? So this is what I'm saying how do we know if we don't try? Okay, and this also goes with pretty much any hobby. Okay, a lot of us will, you know, we start hobbies, we love them, it's great and we stick to what we know, but maybe there's something in the back of our minds that we've been wanting to try, but we're just not trying, okay, and this could be something like picking up a new musical instrument, right, maybe you've been dying to learn some instrument, maybe it's the drums, piano, guitar, whatever it may be but you know you're afraid of something. Right, you've got an underlying fear and you're not doing it. So these are little things that we can start kind of considering and these are all things that we can do to step out of our comfort zone, and there are a lot of different examples for this and I just want to share a few more to kind of broaden this perspective.
Speaker 1:But again, for some people it might be avoiding a job change because they're safe in their current role. Okay, because you fear the unknown. You don't necessarily know what's going to be happening in that other role, but you've got a feeling that's like, hmm, I really want to apply, but then you don't get out of your comfort zone, you don't get more information on the role at all, you just stay where you are. Okay, some people might not try anything due to fear of failure. Fear is a big one and we'll dive into that shortly.
Speaker 1:But also it's not only about hobbies or jobs. Right, it could be due to the fear of being alone. You remain in a toxic, unfulfilling relationship that you know is not serving you anymore, that you know that you should be getting out of right Because it's just you know, you know this is not the person that you're meant to be with, but again, you're afraid to get out of your comfort zone. So you're afraid of being alone. Right, again that underlying fear, and because it's comfortable, you stay there. Right, and there are many people that settle in relationships that they're not happy with, right. So this is what I'm saying right, all these are completely normal, they're completely valid. It's how we feel in that moment.
Speaker 1:But at a certain point, I think we kind of need to sit down and ask ourselves honestly right, like I talked about in many of my episodes, it's having that radically honest conversation with yourself. Right, what could your comfort zone be costing you? Okay, maybe it's costing you the fact that you're not growing in life, right, maybe it's costing you the fact that you're in a relationship where you know you could be with someone else that genuinely cares, loves and supports you, right? So this is what I'm saying. And when you start stepping out of your comfort zone, right, with these little small wins that I'm talking about, right, you don't need to necessarily do all this in one day, but it's just kind of seeing these little changes as opportunities for small wins.
Speaker 1:And, in my personal opinion, this is how you build confidence, this is how you build courage and this is how you build your self-esteem over time. Right, it's by doing things that are getting you out of your comfort zone. It's by doing things that you're reluctant to do, but then you try them and I, you know, maybe you won't like them, but at least you tried it. Like, hey, you know what, I give it a shot and you know. Or on the flip side again is you're trying something and maybe you're falling in love with that thing, you're getting good at that thing, and then you're building that confidence, right, and I think that that confidence kind of goes in every different aspect of your life. Right, when you step out of your comfort zone and you try something and you're confident, you're like, wow, okay, the next thing that you'll try, the next new thing. You're like, hmm, you know well, if I did that other thing before, I'm certain that I can do this. Right, and the more you start exposing yourself to new things, the more you'll want to try new things as well, like for me personally. This is why I've kind of set a goal for myself that every year I try to do new things right, like even if it's only a few things in the year that I'm trying, at least I feel like it's getting me out of my comfort zone in small ways. It doesn't necessarily need to be big things. Sometimes it will be big things right, like starting this podcast. That was obviously getting myself extremely out of my comfort zone. Right, being more active on social media. Those are all different things, but small things again, like I've done this year.
Speaker 1:For me personally, one was trying disc golf. Okay, it's something that I wanted to try. For a while I was a bit hesitant. I was like, eh, you know, and my friend invited me. I was like, you know what? I keep doing? The same hobbies. I was like I might as well get out of my comfort zone and try this out. And guess what? I absolutely love disc golf. I was even talking to my friends about this the other day. I'm actually planning on buying a set and actually starting disc golf.
Speaker 1:This is what I mean. How do you know you don't try and you meet new people and all these different things. Okay, another example for me personally lately that that's happened, that's really got me out of my comfort zone is in the gym. So basically, for the past 12 years I've I've kind of been training the same style, kind of like that bodybuilding style, and I actually love that style, that's what works for me and I'm going to try new exercises and all these different things. But recently, about five months ago, I injured my knees doing squats in the gym. So I've had to kind of switch things around and I've had to work on more unilateral movements to really strengthen my core a bit more. And one of the ways to do that is through kettlebell work. Okay, and I've never touched a kettlebell in my life up until a few months ago, okay.
Speaker 1:So when I started this, you know, my chiropractor was like you need to start, or I would, you know, recommend that you start doing things with kettlebells, because it's you can do this like unilaterally and you can kind of target core muscles that right now aren't being engaged. No-transcript, different things, right, and you know, to kind of make matters worse here, like the way a kettlebell in my life and I was like, oh, my goodness, like my form is going to suck. People might look at me strange, and I was like you know what I was like. This is an opportunity to learn something new, to get out of your comfort zone. You're going to suck at it when you start, but you're going to get better, right. Like anything else in life, we suck when we start and we get better at it.
Speaker 1:And as I progressed through my kettlebell journey, if you will right, I've been doing this for a pat for the past few months and guess what? I absolutely love it. Guess what? It helped my body in so many different ways. I've learned so much about my body. I've learned, you know, that my core, et cetera, wasn't strong enough before as opposed to now or as compared to now, as an example. And also, I absolutely just love doing kettlebell stuff and in fact, I want to incorporate more of it, right?
Speaker 1:So this again is just kind of a short story to kind of let you know that, hey, you know, at first I was fearful of it, but I tried it out. I stepped out of my comfort zone, I did the kettlebell stuff and all I saw was improvements, right, not only in my training, my mobility and all these different things. And then I actually had people come up to me and say, like hey, dude, like I, you know, I've never seen you do kettlebell work before. Like why are you doing this? And people got interested, right, and I've had people ask me like you know, what types of exercises do you do, et cetera. Right, because it's when people see you also trying new things's so many benefits that come out of getting out of your comfort zone. It's crazy, right, it's the little things that add up over time.
Speaker 1:So this is just a small perspective that I want to share, but hopefully it kind of paints a better picture of what I mean by. It doesn't necessarily always have to be this huge, extravagant thing. It can be small moves that you make in your life. So these are all little examples of getting out of our comfort zone. And another question that we can ask is really, how do I know if I need to step out of my comfort zone? Okay, like, a lot of people do this automatically. It's perfectly fine, right.
Speaker 1:But a lot of us, like myself included, we need to kind of have that little push, that little push to try new things and really get ourselves out there a bit more, which is really my whole purpose for this episode today. So, as an example, if you're not growing or learning new things, okay, you're not taking chances in your life, you're not fulfilling your goals or your dreams. If you keep wondering why you're not accomplishing things that you want to accomplish, right, maybe that's making new friends or, you know, trying new hobbies, all these different things. These are little questions that you can sit with and truly kind of sit with again and ask yourself like, hmm, you know what seems to be holding me back here? Right, and we'll talk about this a bit more later, but again, it's really about maybe it's time to look at these areas in your life where you might be a little too comfortable and passive. Okay, but again, I just want to shift the perspective here.
Speaker 1:Right, it's important and also very healthy to not push ourselves too far. Right, not go too far all the time. Right, because, again, pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone sometimes can be very stressful. Right, it can cause anxiety and such. That is okay to a certain extent, but being in a constant state of high stress can also take its toll. We just want to ensure that we're not stressing ourselves too much, but we are putting a little bit of pressure on ourselves Good pressure, might I add here, but some pressure on ourselves to make those changes that we know need to happen.
Speaker 1:And again, like I said earlier, it's good to have a comfort zone, but it's about not being too comfortable there, that we don't pursue what it is that we we want to pursue, what our soul knows that it's meant to lead as an example. And also this is why I think for a lot of people we get stuck on autopilot. Okay, I know, for me that was the case for many years, right, we're so in our routine and you know I'm a big routine guy myself. So sometimes, like I said, I need to get myself out of my routine, get myself to try something new or just do something different in my day, to kind of break that autopilot, right, because, again, if we're constantly doing the same thing over and over and over and reliving the same day over and over, it gets so habitual that we're not even aware of it, right, and then we do this unconsciously and then that can leave us feeling really stuck and kind of just yeah, stuck, I think is the best way to say it. And the best way to break out of that is to get out of that comfort zone and get out of that routine, try different things. Maybe it's going to see a friend, all these different things, right. So, again, if you're feeling like you're reliving the same day over and over and you're feeling really stuck, this could be an indicator, right, this can be an indication that, hey, I need to try something new.
Speaker 1:But, as I've highlighted earlier, sometimes there's so much fear that it makes it hard for us to step out of our comfort zone, right? So sometimes getting out of our comfort zone is easier said than done, right, and I wanted to highlight a few reasons why it is hard to get out of our comfort zone. So, first and foremost, honestly, it's just fear, right? I think fear is an underlying root cause of a lot of the reasons why we don't get out of our comfort zone. Right, it could be fear of failure, self-doubt, all these different things, right. But the thing is, trying new things, trying something new, comes with the possibility of failure and for a lot of us, we don't like that. Okay, I'm just being honest For myself. That was one of the things in my life that I noticed. Okay, sometimes we'll fear embarrassment, disappointment, negative judgment from others. We may also have a lack of confidence in our own abilities.
Speaker 1:There are so many reasons, but another one as well is we just care too much about what other people think right. And there's a great quote by Lao Tzu when he says care about what other people think right. And there's a great quote by Lao Tzu when he says care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. Okay, and I'm saying this because, from my personal perspective, I think that a lot of us do care what people think, right. A lot of us do care about what other people think of us and how they perceive us, and I have an entire episode dedicated to that, if you do want to check that out.
Speaker 1:But again, I think that is a big reason as to why we don't try new things, right, whether it's a small thing or a big thing or all these different things. It could be public speaking as an example, right? Maybe you don't want to get on stage because you're afraid that you'll fail, that people will laugh at you. All these different things, right, and sometimes caring what other people think can be a significant factor in why we're not moving ahead. Another primary reason is fear of the unknown. Okay, and again, as you see, there's a pattern here, right, it's fear, a lot of fear, okay, but more specifically in this case, fear of the unknown.
Speaker 1:Sometimes we don't know what we don't know and that can scare us, right? We don't know what may happen which can trigger anxiety, and I think that's what anxiety is a lot of the times, right Is. We project into the future, we think about all these scenarios and, the thing is, the key thing is we do not have a sense of control, which means that stepping into unfamiliar territory can lead to more anxiety because we can't control the outcome. We don't know what's going to happen. That scares us and it makes us anxious and because of that sometimes we just don't do anything. We get into this kind of state of fight flight, even free sometimes, where we shut down or we just get avoidant and we just don't do anything. As an example, we avoid the situation, we don't want to be involved in it, whatever it may be, because, again, your nervous system will always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven. But stepping into that unfamiliar heaven is just so important because we just don't know what's waiting on the other side, and sometimes what's waiting for us is exactly what we've been waiting for it's that opportunity that we've been waiting for for so long.
Speaker 1:So those are a few examples, another one being emotional security, our typical routines. They provide emotional safety and predictability. Right, that's why we have routines. That's why we like having routines. That's why, for me personally, I love routines. I love being home. Okay, I feel like my home is my comfort zone. I've got everything that I need here. But it's also important to understand that we need to get out of that place as well. Right, whatever your comfort zone is, for you, we need to also get out of that. Okay, because, again, a comfort zone is great, but at what cost? Right, what is your comfort zone costing? These are other little factors here that I want to share, and the final one is honestly just biological factors.
Speaker 1:Right, this kind of goes with fear of the unknown here a little bit, but we have a survival instinct. We are wired to avoid threats and seek safety. Okay, so, of course, we like our comfort zone because we don't like threats. Like, our brain is wired to keep us alive. Okay, so this can make us resistant to change. Okay, new and unfamiliar situations can trigger that fight or flight or even shut down as an example. Right, it can cause an anxiety in that avoidance because, again, as an example, if we're can cause an anxiety in that avoidance because, again, as an example, if we're talking about public speaking here, let's just use that, okay.
Speaker 1:Maybe you're thinking about that public speaking gig and you're like, oh, I really want to do that. Maybe you got offered something okay and you're like, hmm, I really want to do that public speaking thing. And now you start thinking about it. Right, you project into the future, you start analyzing the scenario, you're getting into all these what ifs, what if that happens, et cetera. Right, and now you're causing yourself so much stress that your body's literally seeing that as a threat, even though there's no threat in front of you. There's no actual threat. It is a perceived threat, but now, because of that, you are not going to pursue the public speaking gig right Now. Again, what is that going to cost you?
Speaker 1:So this is why I'm saying it's so important to understand that this is a biological factor. It's a survival instinct, but we need to learn to work with it and not let it run our lives. So I hope this is making sense so far, but I'm really trying to kind of dive deeper into the comfort zone to make you realize how important it can be but also how detrimental it can be if we don't actually step out and do the things that we know will make us grow. Okay, because it's important to get out, because, honestly, it's the personal growth right. We're overcoming those fears, we're facing our fear directly, okay, we're building that confidence, we're accomplishing new things, we're challenging tasks, which boosts our self-esteem, which is so, so, so important, okay. Another thing is we're expanding our horizons, right, self-esteem, which is so, so, so important, okay. Another thing is we're expanding our horizons, right, we have exposure to new experience and that just broadens our perspective of life, which I think is so, so, so important, okay, and that can be in your personal life. It could be in your professional life, okay, maybe you're wanting to learn a new skill in your job. Maybe you're, you know, taking that risk to apply to a new position, right, as a career advancement or promotion, whatever it may be. But again, this goes with personal growth and expanding your horizons.
Speaker 1:But also, very importantly, is that if you step out of your comfort zone and do the things that scare you, little by little, you're building resilience, you're adapting to new situations, which kind of build that mental toughness and that resilience, it can help reduce anxiety because, again, you're exposing yourself to the thing, the stressor, right, and I think, when it comes to something like anxiety so let's pick on social anxiety as an example okay, social anxiety is something that I've dealt with for many years and I still do, to be quite honest. But again, I think, when it comes to anxiety is we have to gradually expose ourselves to it. Okay, if we're socially anxious and we avoid all social events, that's only going to heighten our anxiety. But if we start to gradually expose ourselves to it and get familiar with that setting and try different types of settings, okay, maybe one day you go out to a bar with friends. Maybe one day you, you know, you go to a, just a house gathering with your friends, friends, or maybe it's going to the movies, whatever it may be right, but if you are exposing yourself gradually, I think that is the best way to do it. Right. And overall, when you start getting out of your comfort zone, I do strongly believe you're increasing your overall sense of peace and happiness. Right, because you're achieving new goals, you're overcoming challenges, you're doing more of the things that you love or you're trying new things that you're like oh my goodness, I never knew I would love this so much, right? So this is what I'm saying. This is why it's so important to really start getting out of your comfort zone Now.
Speaker 1:With that being said, I want to share a few more tips and tricks on how to get out of your comfort zone, right, and how to start exposing yourself to more things to kind of really help you build that resilience, that confidence and that self-esteem over time. First and foremost, the first tip that I want to share with everyone today is get clear on what is holding you back. Okay, this is so, so, so important because, as I keep saying in every episode, we cannot change what we are not aware of, right? So self-awareness is important, right? We need to understand what is going on and where we're blocking ourselves. So you can start by just kind of doing a list of like okay, where do I think that I could kind of step out of my comfort zone here? Right? And again, this is about exploring with curiosity. It's not about being like, oh my goodness, there are so many different things I should be doing and then you're getting harder on yourself or self-critical. No, no, no, right, this is exploring with curiosity and a sense of wonder, like I always say, okay.
Speaker 1:Now ask yourself the question like what is it that you're truly afraid of? Okay, because a lot of the times, the reason we're not stepping out of our comfort zone is there's an underlying fear, there's something that we're not sure about. So you can really ask yourself what is it that you're truly afraid of? So let's pick on public speaking again. Okay, maybe you were offered a gig and you're like, oh my goodness, I want to do this. And then someone's like yeah, that could be a good opportunity for you and you're reluctant. Right, you're unwilling to do it. You're not very sure if you want to step into it. So ask yourself what are you truly afraid of? What do you honestly think is going to happen here? Right, and what would happen if you did do it? Okay, there are so many great opportunities that you can get from that.
Speaker 1:So try to get an understanding of the fear or what is holding you back in a specific area. Okay, whatever it may be. Maybe it's applying for a job You've been debating for a while and you're hesitant to apply. You haven't applied yet. Maybe, and you're hesitant to apply, you haven't applied. Yet maybe there's something in you, right, there's a fear. Oh well, maybe I'm not good enough for that job or, oh, maybe you know what's the point, I'm not going to get it. All these different things, okay?
Speaker 1:So, first and foremost, really, what are you truly afraid of? And, secondly, what is your comfort zone costing you? Right, I've said this a few times in this episode, but, honestly, have that radically honest conversation with yourself. What is your comfort zone costing you? Is it costing you a new career that you might actually genuinely love and that's really where you want to go but you're not applying because you're afraid that you might not be the best candidate? Is it costing you your dream? Are certain fears holding you back from taking steps that you know you need to take in order to achieve your dream? Whatever your dream may be, okay, doesn't matter what it is. So, honestly, sit with yourself, explore with curiosity, okay, a sense of wonder and a sense of compassion and genuinely ask yourself what is your comfort zone costing you?
Speaker 1:Tip number two is to get clear on your goal and start small, okay. So, now that you've identified the areas of life where you want to step out of your comfort zone, okay, maybe start with one thing, right. If you feel like that's all you can do, then start with one thing. It's not about starting with five different things and going all out here. We don't want to stress ourselves too much, but focus on one area of your life that's really important for you right now. Okay, maybe for you right now you've been really dying to apply to this new job and you haven't. Okay, maybe it starts by getting more information about the role and then submitting the application. Okay, that's a huge, significant step. It's a huge way to get out of your comfort zone.
Speaker 1:Okay, let's use public speaking as another example. Maybe you want to start public speaking. Maybe it's something that you've always dreamed about but you've never taken any action on Okay. So if you've never done any type of public speaking before, maybe for you, the first step is to simply start recording yourself and speaking to the camera. Okay, speak to a wall, speak to whatever it is that you can, right, get confident, build that confidence as you're speaking, build your speaking as well, and then go on to, maybe, family members, to friends, whatever, right. And then you start perhaps doing a speech in front of two or three friends or whatever, and then you start to look for opportunities, right. But these little things that you're doing, all these little actionable steps, those will build confidence and they will help you get to your goal. So this is why I'm saying you need to start small, but the most important thing you can do is to take action. Okay, you need to take action, otherwise none of it matters, right? So really identify what it is that you want to focus on and then start doing the actionable steps to get you there.
Speaker 1:And another quick thing that I wanted to add here as well is that perhaps for you, your area of focus is trying new hobbies or trying new experiences, as an example, right? So make a list of things that you've always wanted to do but you haven't done yet and then go try them Okay. So maybe for you it's booking a solo trip that you've never done before and you want to do that. Okay, cool, awesome. That would be significantly getting out of your comfort zone. Maybe for you it's dancing or going to play disc golf, or going to an indoor rock climbing gym or, you know, going to a Zumba class, whatever it may be, okay. But if you get or make a small list of the things that you've always wanted to do that have been kind of in the back of your mind, and we all have these things. We all have these things that we've wanted to try, but for whatever reason, whatever excuse we came up with at the time, we've never tried it. Okay, oh, I don't have time. Oh, I'll try this next week. Oh, whatever, okay, well, this is my kind of actionable step for you to take from this episode. Is really this right, get that list, write that list, try something that you've always wanted to try before and see how it benefits you. Right? Maybe you won't like it, but hey, you've tried it and you learned something. Right? You learned that you don't like this, but maybe it'll kind of be like my kettlebell thing, where you want to try this and you're going to absolutely fall in love with it and you're going to want to add more of it to your life, which is going to be a contributing thing to your life, okay, so that's just kind of the other part of step number two that I want to share, but it's another great way to kind of get clear on what it is that you want to try and then go out and do it, because, again, taking action is always the most important step.
Speaker 1:Tip number three is what we talked about earlier, and it is exposure therapy. Okay, and what I mean by this is to gradually expose yourself to situations that make you feel uncomfortable and over time, you increase intensity and basically, over time, that helps you build tolerance to whatever it is Okay. So exposure therapy can be in a lot of different things, but if we talk about our social anxiety again, because I know it's something that's common for a lot of people, but I think social anxiety is a great example of exposure therapy, okay. So, again, if you're socially anxious, if you're someone that struggles with that a lot, like I did it's what we talked about earlier right, so it's gradually exposing yourself to the situation. Okay, it's not going right off the bat to a concert of 10,000 people, but maybe if your friends are inviting you to a bar that you know, maybe you go out with them. Okay. Maybe you get invited to a concert with a friend and you're like you know what? There might be a lot of people there, but I'm going to go anyway. Okay, because that's the thing with social anxiety, right? Well, from my personal experience as well is when we get invited to places or parties or concerts or whatever. A lot of the times is like there's these unconscious questions coming up, right, like what time are we going to be back? How many people are going to be there? Who are going to be there? All these different things, right, and that can literally get us more anxious and stop us from doing the thing anyways, right? So, again, it's about gradually exposing yourself over time to little things and building that resilience over time yourself over time, to little things and building that resilience over time.
Speaker 1:Tip number four is to surround yourself with people who are doing the same thing. Okay, surround yourself with people who are getting out of their comfort zones and going after what it is that they want. Maybe it's that specific goal, maybe it's trying a new hobby, but you need to surround yourself with people who are doing the same thing. We all intuitively know that who we surround ourselves with is literally everything right. In fact, I would say it's probably one of the most important things we can do in our lives is who we surround ourselves with. Right, we want to choose people who inspire us. We want to be around people that are like oh my goodness, like they're doing these things, they're trying these new things. Wow, that's inspiring me to go after my own dreams or to try these new, different things as an example. Okay. Otherwise, I think we're really and I'm going to be honest I think we're shooting ourselves in the foot right. If we're trying to have a specific goal but we keep surrounding ourselves with people that aren't aligned with our vision, then that's just going to hold us back.
Speaker 1:Okay, at a certain point in our lives, we may need to cut out people that no longer align with us. Right, it's not nothing personal towards them, but it's like okay, are they actually bringing me up or bringing me down? Right, and you know, if you're listening to this podcast, chances are you want to improve yourself, you want to be in a better place than you were yesterday or last week or whatever. It may be okay, and, honestly, a big significant factor in that is who you surround yourself with. Okay, so, honestly, tip number five is make sure that you're surrounding yourself with people that bring you up and not bring you down. Last but not least, the final tip that I want to share with everyone today is to seek support.
Speaker 1:Okay, if you cannot get out of your comfort zone and you're feeling stuck to the point that it's actually really detrimental to your mental health, and this can happen, right, like, for a lot of different reasons, for a lot of different factors. It could be underlying beliefs that we have, it could be things from our childhood. Then maybe it's important that you don't go through this alone and that you work with a coach or a therapist and someone that can really help guide you and really get to the root cause of why this is happening. Right, and some of the clients I've worked with, one thing that I've noticed is that fear of failure, or fear in general, is a big thing, right, so sometimes it's important to work through that with a coach or a therapist. Like I said and you know I do one on one coaching as well so if it's something that you're interested in, you can check out my podcast description I've got the link to my Instagram and my website there as well if you want to get more information on what I do specifically for my one-on-one coaching. But this is something that I also love helping clients with.
Speaker 1:But it's also important to know that if you just can't get out of your comfort zone and you're feeling stuck and it's to a point where it's impacting your mental health, there could be underlying, deeper reasons. Okay, so seek the support that you need. So, that being said, that's all I've got for you guys on today's episode. If you did like the episode, please feel free to leave a comment or review, share it. It really helps bring awareness to what I'm trying to do, which is really kind of, you know, spread this podcast on a broader scale to really help people just navigate everyday life challenges. So, again, with that being said, I hope you have a good week and I will catch you guys next week. Thank you.
